Happy Father’s Day

Scripture Passage: Proverbs 3:11-12

Happy Father’s Day!

Special days like Father’s Day can be emotionally positive or negative — depending on the role our father played in our lives. God’s design for the family is to have a mom and a dad because it takes a man and woman, father and mother, to reflect God’s image to a child.

The First Ingredient for Biblical Fatherhood is Instruction

Vs. 11 – “Do not despise the Lord’s instruction my son and do not loathe his discipline.”

The purpose of fatherly instruction is to inform and equip. Many passages in Proverbs are about a father teaching his children about living wisely. Someone noted that proverbs is not a book for philosophers to ponder but rather a book for parents to practice.

The primary duty of a father is not to fix things or take out the trash but instead to teach his children. If you are a father, what are some practical ways in which you are teaching your children to live in a way pleasing to God.

The Second Ingredient for Biblical Fatherhood is Correction

The purpose of correction is to adjust and strengthen. Parents must love their kids enough to correct them. Requiring obedience of children is implicit in the biblical requirement that children obey their parents (read Ephesians 6:1).

The purpose of discipline and correction is to adjust and strengthen and not to humiliate or to anger. As a dad, what adjustments do you need to make in regard to how you discipline your children?

The Third Ingredient for Biblical Fatherhood is Affection

Vs. 12. “for the Lord disciplines the one he loves, just as a father disciplines the son in whom he delights.”

For some, affection may be something difficult to express. We can, however, show affection by being a part of our children’s lives by being there for the big and small moments, especially those that can’t be repeated. Parents should also verbalize affection because there is power in words.

As a dad, how do you show affection to your children?

Words of a True Friend

Scripture Passage: Proverbs 18

Do you have true, strong, healthy relationships in your life? We can all relate that friends are always a huge part of our daily lives, but how do we keep them healthy so they lead us down the right path?

“I Choose You”

Every friendship begins with a choice. The truth in life is that we cannot be best friends with everyone in life, but we can choose who we are close to and who we need to keep at a distance. It is healthy to be selective and intentional with those who you invest your time and emotional energy with.

Discuss: Think of a time when you chose the wrong friend. What were the negative effects of that choice?

“I Know You”

Friendship is about getting to know someone and know someone well. Through knowing someone well we see the good things and we see the bad things, but a friend sees both of these things and still likes you anyway. Having a friend that knows a lot about you helps keep you accountable to the things of the Lord and will know when you need help.

Discuss: Who knows you well? How did that person get to know you well? When and how did that friend help you in your walk with Christ?

“I Challenge You”

A good friend isn’t someone who only says good things to you, but a true friend challenges you to be the best you that you can be. Proverbs 27:17 tells us that we need to sharpen each other like iron sharpens iron — not always a fun process but one that makes us better. We want this challenge so that we can continue to grow towards Christ.

Discuss: Who is someone in your life that challenges you toward Christ? How do they challenge you?

“I’m Committed to You”

True friends are found in adversity. A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out. We have to be on the lookout for these people because they are the ones that are truly on our team through the thick and the thin.

Discuss: Who was there for you during the hard times? What did it mean to you?

The Three Dimensions of Biblical Wisdom

Scripture Passage: Proverbs 1:1-7

Biblical wisdom is similar but not the same as the wisdom of the world. Proverbs 1:1-7 shows that Biblical Wisdom has three dimensions to it.

1. Biblical Wisdom is Moral | Proverbs 1:3
If you asked someone what wisdom is, the first answer you’d probably get would have something to do with morals and deciding about right and wrong. The pictures we have in our head about Solomon usually involves him being confronted with a complicated situation with no easy answers and somehow he decides on what the right thing to do. And it’s true. This is a huge dimension of what wisdom is. Wisdom will help you be righteous, seek justice, and be fair with all people even in complicated situations. But that is not the whole story.

2. Biblical Wisdom is Practical | Proverbs 1:2, 4-6
The Hebrew word for wisdom is best translated as “skill.” It is used to describe the ability of the craftsmen who worked on the tabernacle in Exodus 31:6. The Proverbs are not abstract concepts. They are radically practical.

Wisdom isn’t just something you know. It’s something you do. It is learning to live skillfully. Verses 2 literally says, “to receive instruction in wise behavior.” The word we use here at Kingsland for this is “true fulfillment.” You will find true fulfillment when you acquire wisdom, literally when you learn the skill of living well.

3. Biblical Wisdom is Theological Proverbs !:7
Wisdom is moral. Wisdom is practical. But the most important dimension of wisdom is that it is theological, which is just a fancy way of saying that it is God-Focused. Several times in the proverbs, including in verse 7, we are reminded that “fear of the Lord” is where everything begins.

People often think “fearing God” means that we should be afraid of God. But that is not what it means. We are told that God loves us (John 3:16), and that perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). So fearing God cant mean to be afraid of Him.

Fearing God means to be “to wonder and be amazed at.” The difference is discerned in its effect on us. To be afraid of something makes you run away from it. To be awed by something makes you want to draw closer to it. Fearing God is to be amazed by who God is and to desire to draw closer to Him.

This is the most important dimension of wisdom because it is the source. Wisdom comes from being in right relationship with the one who made the world.

• Wisdom is moral, it will help you make right decisions in hard situations.
• Wisdom is practical, it will help you learn to live skillfully.
• Wisdom is theological, it will draw you closer to God, and the closer you are to God the more His life will flow into yours.

Discussion Questions:
• What does it mean that wisdom is learning to live skillfully?
• What does it mean to fear God? Why is it the beginning of becoming wise?

Three Choices for Life

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Scripture Passage: Proverbs 31:8-9

A picture frame gets its value from the art or image inside of it. The Sanctity of Life discussion is rooted in the truth that we have value because our human frames bear the image of God–not because of how powerful we are, what ethnicity we are, or because of anything we can offer to society.

As Christ-followers, there are three key choices we have to make in our defense of the sanctity of life.

1. Always Choose People Over Convenience.
We need to embrace the value and personhood of those who “have no voice.”

“Speak up for those who have no voice, for the justice of all who are dispossessed.”
-Proverbs 31:8

Valuing life doesn’t just apply to abortion. We show we value life when we appreciate and defend all life regardless of class, disability, age, etc.

2. Always Choose Right Over Injustice. 
When we say that our convenience is more important than the value of life, we are placing ourselves on the throne instead of God. We must do what is right even in the face of wrong-doing, confusion, or opposition.

3. Always Choose Grace Over Condemnation. 
We must understand that regardless of the mistakes from our past, complete forgiveness and freedom can be found in a relationship with Jesus Christ. God’s grace and forgiveness provides healing from our hurts and gives us a new start!

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
-1 John 1:9

Discussion Questions:

  • What kinds of people are in danger of being devalued in our culture?
  • Has there ever been a time where you stood up for someone who was being devalued? Why did you do that?
  • What are the challenges or risks in defending the devalued?
  • What is something you can decide to do today to show sanctity for life?

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